And we’re pretty darn excited about it.
So why are we adopting? Simply put, we feel called to adopt.
A little fairytale
Boy Meets Girl
I was interested in adoption from a very early age – blame it on the Cabbage Patch Dolls or Disney movies, but I always had a heart for expanding my someday-family through adoption. Evan was a bit more hesitant. Actually, to be more accurate, Evan was downright against adoption. When we got married, adoption wasn’t on the table for discussion.
In July 2010, God spoke very clearly to me about orphans through Isaiah 1:17 at a retreat in Georgia. At that same conference, Evan had a conversation with a friend whose family was in the middle of a third adoption. The friend shared his heart about adoption, orphans, and their family’s experience and something began to change in Evan’s heart. When we returned from the retreat, conversations continued about what adoption might mean for our family.
Girl Goes to Africa
I had the opportunity to go to Rwanda and Ethiopia to visit orphans in the December 2010/January 2011. In a room of two-year-olds, my heart was shattered. One by one I held each child, praying for them and feeling the weight of the burden for the fatherless. Although the children were well cared for in that orphanage, it was abundantly clear that the children recognized the importance of being loved, hugged, and cared for in a family. When I had the next chance, I emailed Evan about the idea of adopting, not as a “someday” option, but as our first step to expand our family. As God had already been working on Evan’s heart, he was open tothe idea of adopting.
Boy and Girl Do A Lot of Praying
When I returned from Africa, we committed to fervently seeking God’s heart for our family in adoption. Fortunately, our church had started 2011 with a fast, which we used to seek God in this matter. After 21 dedicated days of prayer and fasting, we felt like God had confirmed both in His Word and through prayer that this was a path for us. We started research agencies and the process, specifically with an eye to adopt from Ethiopia.
In May 2011, we had raised enough money to move forward with the adoption only to find out that the agency we wanted to work with had decided not to accept new families into their Ethiopia program due to the recent instability in international adoptions there. So, we resumed praying and seeking God. Knowing we felt called to adopt from Africa, we looked at various countries to see what options were available. Then, in August 2011, we found the Democratic Republic of the Congo. Knowing there are an estimated five million orphans, we felt moved to find an agency that was facilitating adoptions in the DRC. We submitted our application on August 26, 2011 and were accepted into the Congo program with our agency on August 29, 2011. We are now waiting for our little one to come home and be part of his/her forever family!
God’s Story in Our Story
As we’ve started this journey, we’ve learned a ton about God. We’ve had to pray more than we did before. We’ve had to ask Him a lot of questions. And we’ve had to read a lot in God’s Word. And, to tell you the truth, we didn’t pay too much attention to it before, but now that we’re starting our adoption, we see God in a whole new light:
In love He predestined us to adoption as sons through Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the kind intention of His will (Eph. 1:5)
But when the fullness of the time came, God sent forth His Son, born of a woman, born under the law, so that He might redeem those who were under the Law, that we might receive the adoption as sons. Because you are sons, God has sent forth the Spirit of His Son into our hearts, crying, “Abba! Father!” (Gal 4:4-6)
Adoption is all over God’s story. We broke the family line in the garden, so God had to figure out how to get us back into the family. I mean, His whole plan to be in relationship with us comes down to redeeming us and adopting us as His children. So as much as we think this story is about our desire to have a family, it’s really God’s story about loving us.
We weren’t really prepare for this calling. But we’ve been so very blessed by the support we’ve received as we’ve begun telling people about our adoption. Our amazing family and awesome circle of friends have embraced our nuttiness (again!) and have been nothing but positive. This means more than either of us can adequately put into words. In fact, most of the time, (at least for me) words usually fail me and tears come in their place.
That said, we’re trying to raise support to facilitate the process. We’ll post updates on what we’re doing and how you can help on our blog (and on this page in particular). Or, you can E-mail Me! Or, you can donate via PayPal (just click the button at the bottom of this post or on the sidebar)!
April/May 2011: We’re holding a yard sale and we want to GO BIG! (WHOA! We raised $1,062 THANKS TO ALL OF YOU!)
April 2011: Pennies are priceless to the Shows Family (Thanks to everyone for your coin jars! So far, coins have contributed a few hundred dollars to our adoption fund. Every penny counts!).
November 2011: Another yard sale! A total of more than $1300! WHOA!
January 2012: A $500 grant from the Fatherless Foundation! THANK YOU!
February 2012: The African Zebra Raffle (January 30-February 13!)
March 2012: Benefit dinner – more information coming soon!